Coupling

Why do we couple? Why do so many of us choose to share our lives with another person, why do we live together, why do we marry?

I do hear people talk about the fear of being alone, growing old alone, etc. Sure. I get that. Yet, as an only child, I personally have never been afraid of being alone. In fact, I actually need and guard my time alone.

Growing up, I learned about love. Loving became a way of being for me. But this means I love my family, my friends, my lovers, often even complete strangers I connect with for some reason or another (e.g. dancing). Gradually, I learned to accept and even embrace the fact that each of these connections has its own colour, its own unique frequency. Basically, I don't consider a romantic relationship to be better, necessarily, or less good than a friendship. All connections count in one way or another, they bring so much value to our lives.

So, why pair up? Why partner? Well, I love jamming! Energetically, emotionally, cerebrally, sexually. I love the sheer magic two (and more) humans can create when deeply connected and invested in jamming together and making life magic happen. When it works, it is truly a thing of wonder. Choosing to share my love with a nesting partner, as I have been for the past few years with a woman who is both my friend and my lover, and before with others, is like choosing to go on a World Tour. My mate and me jamming intensively, for a period of time. With a bit of luck, this World Tour, this 'period of time' will go on for many many years (a bit like the Rolling Stones). But if it does end, that's okay too. We will both go on to jam again, just with different partners.

So, if you feel like jamming, I say go for it. Happy jamming.