Polyamory

Ethical non-monogamy and polyamory are certainly very topical these days. Books are being written, articles aplenty. Most people’s questions start off with concerns about belonging, jealousy, trust, betrayal - all very valid concerns of course and things polyamorous people also care about deeply. But what surprises me is when people adamantly claim that it is not possible to truly love two (or more) people at the same time. This I find outright bizarre.

I’ve had two daughters for over 20 years. I adore them both and have never felt confusion or conflict about the depth of that dual love, the subtleties and evolving complexities of it as they grow into different yet equally wonderful humans, or my complete devotion to both of them. I also have a lot of friends I love deeply. Because they’re different people, my connection with each one is different, but always authentic and loving. Humans are naturally capable of loving more than one person. Who has decided that romantic love is different? How? Why?

Ultimately, love is love. It loathes barriers, it defies rigid definitions. All we’re trying to do, all any one of us is trying to do is to love and be loved, be seen and embraced as we are, for a deeply connected moment in time.